Do you have an old story that you are tired of telling? I did. I spent years believing that I didn’t really have choices; I had to do what other people expected; I wasn’t confident; I wasn’t clever; I wasn’t popular; I couldn’t maintain a healthy weight; no-one loved me; I didn’t have enough money to do what I wanted…. Telling this story became so routine that I stopped noticing it was a story. I believed it was fact and that it was just how it was; it was me; and would always be so. What I didn’t know was […] Read more
The topic of fat-shaming is a difficult one. It is a topic that I have a lot of experience of and, sadly, it is still very common This isn’t about people who shout out nasty insults in the street. Or those who write abusive comments hiding behind their keyboard online. Those people don’t deserve any of your, or my, time and the only answer to them is to ignore them. We can’t change the people who behave like this but we can change how we choose to react to them. This article is in response to the question I get […] Read more
I don’t believe in having regrets about my life. I definitely have things in my past that I look back on without any pleasure and would not want to live through again but I don’t regret them.
A very wise person introduced me to the concept of picking three words as my theme for the New Year rather than setting New Year’s resolutions. I did this for 2019 and really worked for me so I am doing it again for 2020 and I’d like to pass on the concept to you. The challenge with New Year’s resolutions is that we often set challenging goals that are black and white i.e. we succeed or fail. There is no grey. Often they require significant changes to our routines and habits and the reality is that most of us have […] Read more