Worry: How much energy do you give to things that never happen?

A very common topic with my clients is worry and anxiety about events or situations that “might” happen. We can often persuade ourselves that these things are real even though they only exist inside our own heads. They can feel very, very real and can trigger physical feelings of stress and anxiousness which can then escalate the fears and worries even further. These feelings often repeat themselves and can even become an almost comforting habit as we convince ourselves that if we worry about everything then we can stop anything bad happening. The reality is that by worrying about things […] Read more

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Start To Love Yourself – You Deserve It

February is a month full of messages about love and relationships. This may give you an excuse to have a special evening with your partner and reconfirm how you feel about each other. Or, you may hate the commerciality of Valentines Day and try to ignore it.   In this month of love I’d like to turn the attention to the relationship with ourselves. Do you show yourself the same love that you show to those around you?  I know that for some people the concept of loving yourself seems an impossible task. Over many years you have focused on […] Read more

Personal Development

What is your new story?

Do you have an old story that you are tired of telling? I did. I spent years believing that I didn’t really have choices; I had to do what other people expected; I wasn’t confident; I wasn’t clever; I wasn’t popular; I couldn’t maintain a healthy weight; no-one loved me; I didn’t have enough money to do what I wanted…. Telling this story became so routine that I stopped noticing it was a story. Therefore I believed it was fact and that it was just how it was; it was me; and would always be so. What I didn’t know […] Read more

why fat-shaming never works

Why fat-shaming never works

The topic of fat-shaming is a difficult one. It is a topic that I have a lot of experience of and, sadly, it is still very common. This isn’t about people who shout out nasty insults in the street. Or those who write abusive comments hiding behind their keyboard online. Those people don’t deserve any of your, or my, time and the only answer to them is to ignore them. We can’t change the people who behave like this but we can change how we choose to react to them. This article is in response to the question I get […] Read more

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